Prelude: A couple of years ago I met a guy for coffee, and he was the one who told me about this theory. I had never heard of it before, and found it so interesting. Enjoy!
Have you ever heard the term, Crabs in a Bucket? It’s a term used when describing how people around you will keep pulling you back so you won’t succeed. Turns out people are very much like crabs.
Think about it, what happens when you put one crab in a bucket? It tries to escape. Now, put two crabs in a bucket and watch what happens? As soon as one crab starts to climb up the pail, the other crab will pull on the other crab’s leg until he falls off the wall and back into the bucket.
Now, think about that reference when it comes to your success. There may be those around you that don’t want you to succeed. They like “where” you are, especially when you are just like them. Only the minute you start climbing out of the “bucket” so to speak. The time when you start improving yourself and going after your dreams. Watch out! Because that is when you might start getting dragged “into” the bucket.
Sometimes it comes in the form of negative talk, sometimes it comes in “their version’ of helpful talk, sometimes they will tell you they are only looking out for you, sometimes it is action people will take against you and sometimes it comes from them being scared they are going to lose you.
People can feel very threatened when someone close to them starts to change. Change is hard. Change makes some people uncomfortable. It can make them feel insecure, sad, lonely, unsuccessful or perhaps even, unworthy. In any case, the result is the same, “them” attempting to pull you back into the pail.
My advice, surround yourself with people who will LIFT YOU UP and PUSH YOU OVER THE SIDE OF THE PAIL.
Surround yourself with people who believe in YOU! People who encourage you, people who will help you and guide you, people who have your back and want nothing but the best for you!
How do you find these people you might ask? Simple. Just keep pursuing your dream and THEY will find you. They always do!
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Till next time,